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I began to learn about receiving people's honest kindness when my father died. I stood in the family line and had hundreds of friends and family come by and say they were sorry for my loss. I started out letting it roll off my back, but then I decided to receive it in the loving spirit in which it was intended. It makes people feel good to say kind things. I have done the same with my performances. I don't feel like I always perform well, but, I must accept that someone else may have thought I did, so I meet them right there. "thanks!" Sometimes particularly at church, I say "praise God because it wasn't all me." But here's a heavier load. I happen to be blind, so, not only do I wonder if it's honest praise for my music, but also if they just feel bad for me so they say nice things because I'm blind! :-) I've really been working on letting this one go, because it'll kill me. I figure, I don't care why they drop the $1, $5 $10 or > as long as they tipped! :-) Rusty On 5/16/12, Daniel Thomas <danielthomas4@mac.com> wrote: > My momma always said.. receive feedback with grace... especially the > positive feedback. > Its not easy... but Mom was right. The giver of positive feedback > deserves > our grace even if we feel "less than" about a performance. > > Love you Mom- rest well. > > D > > On May 16, 2012, at 10:37 AM, Rick Walker wrote: > >> On 5/16/12 6:18 AM, kkissinger@kevinkissinger.com wrote: >>> >>> We must be as open to praise as we are to criticism. When you recieve >>> applause and compliments, allow it sink in. >> I'd also like to add that people with 'less than' behavior frequently >> fear >> that they will be perceived as being >> 'grandiose' if they allow themselves to soak in applause and >> compliments. >> I fall into this category a lot myself. >> If someone gushes about me in public, it makes me feel so weird and >> uncomfortable. If people persist, I even >> feel angry about it because I"m so uncomfortable. >> >> But I've seen many a performer hurt the obvious affectionate response of >> an audience because they are uncomfortable >> and deflect the praise the crowd gives them. >> >> But I heard once that low self esteem manifests in two types of >> behavior: >> 'grandiosity' and 'less than' behavior. >> >> The older I get, the more I see the wisdom in this. >> Because of this, I completely concur with Kevin's advice, even if >> applause or compliments make you nervous. >> >> And, if you think of it, low self esteem was created when we were >> children over a long period of time >> and through a lot of, usually small, unhealthy interactions with people >> who were important to you. Self esteem actually >> can be built over a long period of time, but we have to work hard to >> let >> the good in and we have >> to work at it over time because it never feels comfortable. >> >> rick walker >> > >